Secrets of a Self-Sacrificing Woman

Every woman holds secrets that she keeps locked in her heart. She does not speak of them to anyone. Only she knows how she feels. Because only she endured what she decided to endure.

It’s not like this woman wanted the suffering. But she chose it. Why did she? Is the better question to be asked. What made her sacrifice herself? Was it based on her free will? Or was she conditioned since childhood that it’s her role to keep on giving of herself with no limits. Did she know her value as a woman and a human being? Or was she taught that she was worthless simply because she was female. Was it her upbringing? Was it her circumstances? Was it her cultural beliefs? Or Was is just her luck?

This woman wakes up one day and asks herself: “how did I end up here?”

The question in and of itself is an indication that a shift is happening. Even if the physical conditions don’t change right away, if ever. Nonetheless, there is a mental shift. There is an awakening of some sort. Perhaps, a need for change, or a need for something more profound. It’s possible even, that this woman is ready to evolve to the next stage in her journey.

Realizations and epiphany moments always come, but who pays attention? That doesn’t mean signs aren’t showing up in different ways. We just choose not to see it because we are not ready for what’s to follow.

Especially in the case of a woman who lost herself along her journey, finding herself giving to the point of depletion. What you don’t know about this woman, is that she is stronger than you can ever imagine.

It takes a very strong woman to give her all and it is never enough. It takes a resilient woman to open her heart and gets taken for granted and even worse, stepped on. It takes a patient woman to keep waiting for appreciation for all that she has given and sacrificed of herself, but never hears :”thank you. “

This woman has given her heart, her time, her effort, her sweat and tears. This woman has given love, compassion, kindness and loyalty even when it’s not reciprocated. This woman has forgiven the most unforgivable, yet she was wronged and abused for her pure heart. This woman was depleted of all her energy into pleasing those who demand it. This woman has been treated sometimes or all the times like a slave, as if she has no feelings and definitely no rights. This woman has suffered emotionally, physically and psychologically and sometimes it’s done by the same people in her life who claim they care for her.

This woman trusted. This woman believed in other’s goodness. This woman had faith that those who used and abused her would eventually realize and change their ways when they see how loving and forgiving she is. This woman is smarter than she leads herself to believe. This woman is stronger than she thinks she is. This woman is worth so much more than what she has allowed for herself.

This woman needs to be seen. This woman needs to be recognized. This woman needs to be saved from herself. Because this woman, as naive or helpless she may seem, is capable of handling more pain, humiliation and disappointments than the strongest woman out there.

Strength is not measured by what you have accomplished or how big your mouth is. That was not meant to be literal. It’s easy to talk. It’s easy to type words on a screen and post it. What’s not easy, is living with the pain, day-in and day-out, and waking up every morning to repeat the same.

Some may judge and say: “that’s stupidity … it’s not strength.” Well, that’s easy for you to conclude. Try living one day in ‘this woman’s shoes’ and see how you will handle it. Live the circumstances that led her to being in this position. Absorb her culture and imagine her parents are yours. All that she obtained and didn’t obtain, from education to financial independence, or lack thereof. Be ‘this woman’ in her unique character and traits. Forget who you are and what you learned and how you would deal with a challenge. Because that’s your mind, your character, your education, your upbringing, and your circumstances.

You see how easy it is to point fingers, blame and judge. It’s easy to say this person is ‘stupid’ or this person should be doing this instead. You are forgetting that they are not ‘YOU’. And by that word, you, means everything about you, and leave nothing out. Because it all makes a difference in the choices we make in life and how we end up where we are.

This woman, the self-sacrificing woman, her secrets are her strength and perseverance. Her attributes are her gentleness, loving and forgiving nature. Perhaps one day she will decide for herself that she needs more than to be taken advantage of. And when she is ready she will. When she fears less and believes more. Never underestimate or judge a self-sacrificing woman. Her heart is an ocean of secrets that you may just drown in.