THE NARCISSIST BOSS TRAP

I am certain you experienced at some point in your life a Narcissistic Boss of some sort. If you are one of the lucky ones who didn’t have the pleasure of meeting one, consider yourself truly blessed. Generally, I can presume that you encountered one in some form or another.

Whether you were directly reporting to them or simply part of the organization. It could have been the owner of the business. It could have been the CEO or some big shot in the corporate world. It could have been an operation manager, a supervisor, or a team leader. Whichever the title, or the role, somebody you had to interact with at work, behaved in Narcissistic ways. One day, as you became educated about the subject matter, you realized you are or were dealing with someone who can be placed on the Narcissism spectrum.

How can you arrive at this conclusion? This sounds so complicated and out of your scope. While you are not licensed, certified or trained to diagnose someone with the Personality disorder, you need to trust in your ability to observe behaviours and be capable of making your own judgment. You need to trust your instinct, your gut feeling. You need to listen to that voice that tells you something is off. You need to trust in your ability to notice when you see, hear or read something that raises RED FLAGS.

Often, you second-guess yourself, dismiss the toxic behaviour, excuse it, pretend it didn’t happen, find a logical explanation for what happened, or simply ignore the behaviour is happening altogether. You have done this. We all have done this, myself included. I have given so many benefits of the doubt, rationalized situations and chosen to have compassion and understanding - so much I lost count.

Ignorance is not bliss.

Your lack of knowledge about this disorder is not helping you in any way. This is why I have made it my mission in this life to educate about Narcissism, help those who are ready to be helped, raise awareness, guide them along the journey of healing from Narcissistic abuse, and mostly empower them to take actions that will transform their life forever.

This is very important for me. So important because I realized after so many years, that I have been stuck in the Narcissist Trap for way too long. I uncovered the abuse in my family, relationships and lastly with my bosses. Yes, I actually had more than one Narcissistic Boss and didn’t know it at the time. Except for my last experience. I caught on I was dealing with a Narcissistic Boss quite early. With the knowledge I now have and after just healing from Narcissistic Abuse, I vowed I would never allow another Narcissist to get the best of me again.

I vowed I would keep my eyes open, and I did. I vowed I would not be too kind to my own detriment, that also I did. I vowed I would set my boundaries from the get-go, and oh did I do that. I vowed I would not tolerate being abused in any shape or form. I vowed I would stand up to myself. I vowed I would speak my truth. I vowed I would have no fear. I vowed to trust that the universe had my back and that everything was going to work out for me in the end. And that’s exactly what I did and how it all went down.

For the first time in my life, I had no fear. I spoke my truth. I stood my ground. I allowed no manipulation or gaslighting to influence or control me. I was super alert. I handled it the best way I knew how. I said “NO” loud and clear. I said no to being manipulated. I said no to being lied to and fooled. I said no to being disrespected. I said no to being taken advantage of. I said no and I was in my power all the way through.

I have broken the cage of the Narcissist trap in all areas of my life. I am blessed that I have this knowledge. And I am at peace knowing, I can handle myself in any situation.

Narcissists are all around us, you cannot escape meeting them, or working with them. The key is to be well educated to know how to handle them if you have to and when to walk away when it is necessary. The key is in your KNOWLEDGE. I cannot stress this enough, you must educate yourself about Narcissism. All the types that exist. They are the same at the core, but they appear different. Some behaviours are similar, while some will be intensified. It all depends on which type of Narcissist you are encountering. What’s their Trauma? And which coping mechanism they are using?

I feel this subject needs to be taught in schools from an early age. Narcissists are here to stay. They are all around us. We cannot escape them. We just need to learn how to handle them. At least, know we are dealing with one and not lose ourselves in the abusive cycle or the Trauma Bond.